Sunday, January 9, 2011

One of my favorite poems SPEECHLESS by Me!

I don't really have to much on my mind but this is one of my favorite poems that I wrote a while ago about my fiance.  Just thought I'd share it with ya'll.

SPEECHLESS
Where words should form only air exists
His presence is like that of....
Speechless
Kiss
My heart skips at the touch of his lips
How my stomach dips with the feel of his fingertips
indescribable is the only word that fits
caught the breath from my body and embraced my soul
by hands that could only hold
hold on to parts of me that before have shuddered and cried
but for him,
every tear that has fallen only added to the sea of love that has flourished between he and I
Cries
that make me inhale adjectives, verbs, and nouns to express our emotional tie
and exhaling breaths that symbolize
how I would die
if he wasn't by my side
and together forms a new life that shall begin
Eve and Adam
I see myself in him
a part of him
and with him
we'll create what'll be a part of us
much more eternal than lust
and creates a stronger level of trust
because
words can't create
sentences won't state
stories can't illustrate
books don't liberate
how the love we possess
Has left me......
SPEECHLESS.


Sunday, January 2, 2011

Marriage and Relationships: 7 months and 17 days!!!!

mar·riage

–noun
1. a. the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.
 
7 and half months until my wedding day!!!! And I'm SIKED!!!!  When you're in love, marriage means so much more than just a union between a man and a woman.  I LOVE the man that I'm going to marry.  I am a young woman and the love that I possess for this man is so old school, so unconditional.   
 
Let's be real when the unibrow grows in, the top lip gets a little fussy, and the hair gets a little nappy and he still looks you in the eye and says "You're beautiful." its definitely love.    I wish more women could experience the kind of love that is shared between my fiance and I.   We're friends way before we are lovers and if my generation realized how important friendship is in a relationship.....well lets just say there would be a lot more husbands and a lot less baby daddys.
 
I guess this post isn't only a dedication to my fiance but as well a word to the wise for women my age.   Accept him for his faults because you aren't perfect either and he will have to accept you for your faults as well.  Men need a woman to give them a purpose.  He needs to feel needed as well as wanted.  And WE mold them.  As much as they believe that they are already a man, a man has no clue how strong and important he can feel or be until a woman gives him purpose.  A man with potential is like a lump of coal and with the right treatment he can become the most precious diamond.    DO NOT disregard a man with potential. 
 
So many times I've heard from different sources that a woman should submit to her man because he is the "man" and that's what makes him feel like a man.  But personally I feel that a man who needs a woman to submit to him in order to feel superior isn't secure in his manhood in the first place.  If you are a strong woman, do not compromise that for anyone, he should accept and respect you for being strong.  Know who you are before getting in a relationship because a relationship will NEVER work if you don't already know who you are and what your standards are.
 
Set your standards and stick by them but don't disregard the man that has potential to BECOME what you ultimately are looking for.  The problem with women today is that even though we aren't perfect ourselves we are expecting to find the perfect man.  Ultimately, we are all humans, we all make mistakes and we all have room to grow and learn.   When my fiance and I started dating he didn't have a job, was living at home, never had a steady car (he had hoopties! lol) and dressed like he was in high school.  Now he works for the state, we own a condo, he drives an Infiniti, and well, we're still working on the clothes but his clothes have definitely been upgraded.  And if you think that my story is a one of a kind, look at Michelle and Barack Obama.  Barack wasn't always the most successful partner in that relationship either. 
 
Sincerely,
 
In Love!