CONNECTICUT WINTER FASHION NO NO'S: NO LONGER ALLOWED!!!!

1st The overly done...."Suede" Square Toe, Calf Height Flat Boots!!! HELL NO!
Ladies if you are 25 and older these boots are not acceptable!!! Just because they come out every year in 7 new colors does not mean that these are in the least bit fashionable.  There are so many other styles to choose from, why waist another cent on these craptacular boots.

2nd The puffy coat....even if it is a Baby Phat Coat.
Once again if you are older than 25, NO!!!!  Kimora Lee doesn't even wear this damn coat any more!!!  Its not even long enough to cover your whole stomach so just because its puffy doesn't mean its doing its job of keeping you warm.  This is not a Ma$e and Puff Daddy video...Upgrade!!! PLEASE!

3rd  I think this is self-explanatory!  If its cold enough to put on a coat, maybe, just maybe, you should put on some pants and a pair of shoes!  'Nough Said!

4th Pink Uggs/Uggs with a skirt/Uggs in general
I got to admit I might get caught up and wear my pair of Uggs this winter, but they are over done.  This trend has had its day, time to put it to rest.  If you are going to wear Uggs, wear them in the traditional tan or brown color NOT PINK, and DEFINITELY don't wear it with a skirt.  We all know your legs are cold and not to mention PALE, don't do it to yourself.

5th no, No, NO, NO!!!!  Its a simple as that....NO!

6th Jerseys
Just because your team is playing or recently won doesn't mean you have to wear your teams jersey every where! Keep it in the Man Cave or at the football game.  Its sloppy and a easy way of getting out of putting on real clothes.


Just a few of the things that should no longer be allowed in Connecticut Fashion....I probably missed a few but I think these are the Top Offenders.

Awake! And Seeing the American Dream for What It REALLY Is!

I have been neglecting this blog a tad bit but I'm coming back with a vengeance!

Over the past couple of weeks I've watched several "controversial" movies.....one being "Capitalism: A Love Story" by Michael Moore and as we speak I'm watching "If God is Willing and Da Creek Don't Rise" a Spike Lee documentary about Hurricane Katrina.     This country is so corrupt, its nauseating. 

I'm only 24 yrs old but I remember as a kid the unity that was felt throughout my neighborhood and the fact that the "American Dream" was possible.  Things were good!  My father had his own business that was doing well and my mother was a stay-at-home mom for 10 years and we lived comfortably.  We WERE the American Dream!  This country has taken a turn for the worse and I'm hopeful that we are on the road to turning back around to the community we once were. 

Between the housing foreclosures, bailouts, the recession, the war, and terrorist attacks....Americans are broken!  We can't take any more. There are things that are completely out of our hands.  Not only are we worried about losing family members overseas and terrorist attacks in our own cities but now we have to be wary of what our own president, our own government, our own media, and even our own fuckin neighbor is doing.

What we THINK we know is all lies!  We are lied to by politicians, news anchors, and even our former president lied to us.  There is no longer any humanity.  Those who are wealthy and upper class look at those who are middle class or poor as an opportunity to exploit. To use us to their own advantage by giving us minimum wage jobs that require an exorbitant amount of work.  But who cares about the health of the lower and middle class....just as long as the rich stay rich the rest of us don't matter....America will get along just fine without the working class as we all die off from stress and depression.

The system is meant to keep everyone EXACTLY where they are.  Even college is impossible.  To be accepted to a notable university is downright stressful!!! Students are strung along to think this is the way to build a future.  To build a solid structure for the rest of your life.  BUT....what happens when you graduate and now you're in an unimaginable amount of debt because of student loans and can't get a job because we're in the middle of a recession.   Now those loans are in repayment and your annual salary barely covers your essential expenses.  For a person to dig their way out of that much debt, it nearly takes a lifetime.  Your life is dedicated to getting out of debt! By time a person owns a home, a decent car, and has kids on top of student loans...debt has now engulfed you. 

I have a lot of faith in President Obama.  I have no other choice than to put my trust in him to turn this country around.  And even though I am proud of who is leading this country now, I can't help but to think about the ignoramus who preceeded him in office for 8 long years.  Watching excerpts from "When The Levees Broke" makes my heart burn with hatred.  He is the epitome of what is wrong with this country.  When a man and his administration have to take 5 days to decide how much aid his own country's citizens deserve in the midst of a tragedy where people are dying and have no shelter or food, then I have to say THAT is a man who deserves to be impeached!!!  Bill Clinton has an affair and lies to us about his own personal affairs is impeached but a man who allows 100's of thousands of people to starve and go without shelter for 5 days is praised???? 

WHAT'S HAPPENING TO US???!!! 
What I ask of anyone who reads this is share your knowledge and lend a helping hand to your fellow Americans. 
America is becoming a corporation and is no longer about the people who make America the great place it once was. 

Sincerely,

A Dreamer

One of my favorite poems SPEECHLESS by Me!

I don't really have to much on my mind but this is one of my favorite poems that I wrote a while ago about my fiance.  Just thought I'd share it with ya'll.

SPEECHLESS
Where words should form only air exists
His presence is like that of....
Speechless
Kiss
My heart skips at the touch of his lips
How my stomach dips with the feel of his fingertips
indescribable is the only word that fits
caught the breath from my body and embraced my soul
by hands that could only hold
hold on to parts of me that before have shuddered and cried
but for him,
every tear that has fallen only added to the sea of love that has flourished between he and I
Cries
that make me inhale adjectives, verbs, and nouns to express our emotional tie
and exhaling breaths that symbolize
how I would die
if he wasn't by my side
and together forms a new life that shall begin
Eve and Adam
I see myself in him
a part of him
and with him
we'll create what'll be a part of us
much more eternal than lust
and creates a stronger level of trust
because
words can't create
sentences won't state
stories can't illustrate
books don't liberate
how the love we possess
Has left me......
SPEECHLESS.

Marriage and Relationships: 7 months and 17 days!!!!

mar·riage

–noun

1. a. the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

 

7 and half months until my wedding day!!!! And I'm SIKED!!!!  When you're in love, marriage means so much more than just a union between a man and a woman.  I LOVE the man that I'm going to marry.  I am a young woman and the love that I possess for this man is so old school, so unconditional.   

 

Let's be real when the unibrow grows in, the top lip gets a little fussy, and the hair gets a little nappy and he still looks you in the eye and says "You're beautiful." its definitely love.    I wish more women could experience the kind of love that is shared between my fiance and I.   We're friends way before we are lovers and if my generation realized how important friendship is in a relationship.....well lets just say there would be a lot more husbands and a lot less baby daddys.

 

I guess this post isn't only a dedication to my fiance but as well a word to the wise for women my age.   Accept him for his faults because you aren't perfect either and he will have to accept you for your faults as well.  Men need a woman to give them a purpose.  He needs to feel needed as well as wanted.  And WE mold them.  As much as they believe that they are already a man, a man has no clue how strong and important he can feel or be until a woman gives him purpose.  A man with potential is like a lump of coal and with the right treatment he can become the most precious diamond.    DO NOT disregard a man with potential. 

 

So many times I've heard from different sources that a woman should submit to her man because he is the "man" and that's what makes him feel like a man.  But personally I feel that a man who needs a woman to submit to him in order to feel superior isn't secure in his manhood in the first place.  If you are a strong woman, do not compromise that for anyone, he should accept and respect you for being strong.  Know who you are before getting in a relationship because a relationship will NEVER work if you don't already know who you are and what your standards are.

 

Set your standards and stick by them but don't disregard the man that has potential to BECOME what you ultimately are looking for.  The problem with women today is that even though we aren't perfect ourselves we are expecting to find the perfect man.  Ultimately, we are all humans, we all make mistakes and we all have room to grow and learn.   When my fiance and I started dating he didn't have a job, was living at home, never had a steady car (he had hoopties! lol) and dressed like he was in high school.  Now he works for the state, we own a condo, he drives an Infiniti, and well, we're still working on the clothes but his clothes have definitely been upgraded.  And if you think that my story is a one of a kind, look at Michelle and Barack Obama.  Barack wasn't always the most successful partner in that relationship either. 

 

Sincerely,

 

In Love!